When Rest Feels Hard
Lately, rest has been feeling harder than I think it should. I sit down to nap, to read, or even to pray, and instead of stillness I feel anxious, fidgety, or distracted. Escapism often comes easier—TV, scrolling on my phone—but that doesn’t leave me feeling truly refreshed.
What I’ve been noticing, though, is that play can be a pathway into rest, one that feels more accessible. I used to think of rest and play as opposites. But really, play is a kind of rest. There are so many ways to rest, and when the traditional ones (the ones that require keeping my body still) don’t work, play is often an easier way to enter. When I paint, color, doodle, or take a slow walk outside, my body and mind relax in ways they don’t when I try to force myself into “being still.”
And here’s something important: the kind of rest that truly quiets our bodies takes practice. It doesn’t always come naturally. Some seasons of life make it harder than others. That doesn’t mean we’re failing at rest, it just means we might need gentler doorways in.
Not every kind of play is equally restful. Some is active or noisy, which is good and refreshing in its own way! But other kinds of play are gentler. I call this contemplative play: the kind of play that refreshes the body, softens the heart, and brings the mind into a quieter rhythm.
Here are some of my favorite ways to practice contemplative play:
Watercoloring
Journaling (especially in my coloring journal)
Digital art (lately I’ve been playing with the idea of making stickers)
Swinging in the hammock
Sitting in the grass with the dogs and letting them tumble around me
Playing fetch with the dogs
Listening to audiobooks (often while doing one of the above)
After these kinds of play, I try to pause and notice what I’m feeling. Often the first feeling that surfaces isn’t the truest one. (Once I sit with it for a few minutes, I usually realize I’m just sad about a lot of things.) Then I gather up all those feelings and lift them to God with a simple prayer: “God, I don’t know what to do with all of this. Will you hold it for me?”
This month, I’m remembering that rest isn’t only stillness. Sometimes the most restful thing is to follow the thread of play until I arrive at the calm I was seeking all along.
Practice Invitation
Think about the kinds of play that feel restful for you. Try one this week, like coloring, baking, daydreaming, humming, swinging in a hammock. As you do, notice how your body and spirit shift. Then, take a moment to name what you’re feeling and lift it up to the Lord.
The Hidden, Blessed, and Sacred Work of Children’s Ministry
Yesterday I had to lead a meeting with our Sunday school volunteers and honestly, I wasn’t really feeling it going in. As the date of the meeting crept closer, I noticed a little bitterness rising inside about children’s ministry, which is very unusual for me! I knew God would meet me in the meeting and in my words, but I wanted to be able to stand in front of our volunteers and speak authentically about how much I love them and love this ministry. So, I reached out to a few close friends and asked them to pray.
And of course, God showed up. As I sang during worship, listened to the sermon, and came forward for communion, my heart shifted. I felt His joy rising in me again, even while I carried my sadness, fear, anxiety, even my bitterness to Him. By the time I stood before our volunteers, I was able to share from a place of honesty about the work, the struggle, and the beauty of what we do together.
Here are some of the things I tried to put into words:
Children’s ministry is hidden.
A friend of mine gave me this word recently about this ministry, and it stuck with me. Children’s ministry doesn’t usually get the spotlight. We’re not up front, we’re not getting applause. In fact, most of the time it feels pretty thankless.
Part of my job is to make sure our volunteers feel seen and valued, but I also reminded them that there’s something holy about the hiddenness itself. In God’s upside-down kingdom, the hidden jobs are the important ones. When the kids aren’t listening, when you’re tired and sweaty, when no one says “thank you” — God sees. And He delights in you.
Children’s ministry is a blessing to us.
We also read together from Matthew 19:14: “Let the little children come to me…”
The truth is, we don’t just serve the kids, we also receive from them. Their honesty, their joy, their questions, even their struggles — they all bless us. Week after week, these little ones show us what humility, trust, and openness to God look like.
Children’s ministry isn’t just about helping kids grow in their faith; it’s about us growing, too. We get to see, right in front of us, the kind of childlike faith Jesus said was the model for His kingdom. Serving in this way is not just a responsibility, it’s a blessing.
Children’s ministry is sacred.
One of the holiest truths about this work is that we are not only telling kids about Jesus, but we are also we are creating spaces where they can encounter Him for themselves. That happens through relationships, through the way we listen, through play, through stories, and through the wonder we make space for. And once you truly encounter Jesus, you are never the same.
When a child feels loved and seen by us, they are experiencing the love and welcome of Jesus. When we invite them to wonder about God’s story, they are encountering His presence in real and lasting ways. This is sacred work, holy ground where God meets His children through the simple faithfulness of His people.
Children’s ministry may not always feel glamorous, but it is holy. It’s hidden, yes, but hidden in the way seeds are hidden before they grow. It’s a blessing to us, because we are shaped by the very ones Jesus told us to learn from. And it’s sacred, because here children encounter the love of Jesus through us, and we encounter Him through them.
So if you ever find yourself tired or discouraged in this work (like I did this week), remember: God sees you. And through you, Jesus is making Himself known.
Sacred Story time: Behind the Scenes
Creating the Sacred Storytime prompts is one of my very favorite parts of what I’ve been doing. They do take a lot of time, though, so last month I shared in my Instagram stories a bit about the process and the heart behind them. In case you missed it, here’s a look at how they come together and why I love making them.
First, I pull the next section of text from Project Gutenberg, a free e-book site that houses many beloved classics in the public domain. Right now, we’re making our way through Winnie-the-Pooh (for reasons I’ll share another time!). I read through the passage carefully and then create three prompts and a prayer to go along with it.
The first prompt is what I call the Noticing Prompt. This is at the heart of what I mean when I talk about using children’s stories for contemplative play. It’s the simple act of reading a sweet story and letting it stir something inside us. The prompts are there to guide you, but honestly, you can do this without them too! My hope is that as you read (or listen, through the Instagram reels), you’ll pause to notice what’s happening in your heart. Afterward, take a moment to offer that noticing to God in prayer. That prayer piece is essential; it shifts our focus from ourselves back to Him. I usually provide a simple prayer you can use, or you’re always welcome to pray your own.
The second and third prompts are a bit more playful. These are things you can do on your own, with a friend, or with a child—something lighthearted, creative, and intentional. Even when they seem silly, they often spark meaningful reflection too.
And then comes the prayer, which may look like an afterthought, but really it’s the center of the whole practice. Reflection is valuable, but the goal isn’t just self-awareness. It’s connection with God. The prayer is our chance to lift up our hearts, remember who He is, and invite His help and presence into what we’ve noticed.
Once the prompts and prayer are finished, I choose an image from the original book to turn into a coloring page (always available as a free PDF in the blog post). Then, I paint a watercolor version of the same page. That watercolor becomes the backdrop for the Instagram reel. I bring it into Canva to add text, then into LumaFusion where I record the voiceover. My goal is always for the reels to feel like you’re being read to as a child—gentle, cozy, and full of wonder.
It’s a fair amount of work, but I truly love it. And I’m dreaming bigger: eventually, I’d love to gather a whole story, with prompts, prayers, and coloring pages, into a printed booklet you can hold in your hands. Something you could take with you, write in, color in, and share with a child or a friend.
Thank you so much for being part of this journey with me. It means the world.
Sacred Playtime
Each month in our rhythm, we move from Make Space into Create + Play.
Make Space is about clearing the noise and slowing our pace so we can be present to God. Create + Play takes that presence and gives it room to stretch and move through our hands, imaginations, and senses.
This isn’t “creative time” in the usual sense, it’s not about producing something beautiful or impressive. It’s about entering into contemplative play: a way of being with God that engages curiosity, creativity, and presence. It’s a posture of wonder that says, “I am here, God, and I am listening,” even when our hands are busy and our minds are open.
It might look like coloring slowly, not to fill the page but to be present to your breath. It might look like walking through your neighborhood and wondering about the stories behind the trees or houses as a prayer. It might look like arranging scraps of paper or string on your table, not for a finished piece, but to explore what your hands are drawn to today.
Contemplative play helps us loosen our grip on control and perfection. It shifts our posture from striving to receiving. In this playful, spacious presence, we become like children again, which is exactly how Jesus invites us to approach the Kingdom.
It helps us grow in intimacy with God because it slows us down enough to notice God noticing us. It makes room to hear God’s voice not just in Scripture or prayer, but in color, movement, silence, texture, and breath. It helps us be with God, not just talk about God.
If you find yourself longing for more of this gentle, spacious presence, I’d love to walk alongside you. In spiritual direction, we make room together to notice God’s invitations, pay attention to your unique story, and explore how God might be speaking through your creativity, questions, and play.
Lift Up Your Head: Noticing as a Spiritual Practice
Every month, we begin by making space and I try to offer some prompts to help us do just that. Last month, many of those prompts invited us to notice. But why is it important to make space? And why bother noticing, especially when what we’re noticing seems so small or even silly?
Making space, slowing down, noticing—it’s all about giving God room to move in our lives. Remember Elijah hearing God in the whisper? (I Kings 19:11-13) The thunder and storms that came before were loud, powerful, dramatic. But God wasn’t in them. It was the stillness where he could finally hear. The same is true for us. The thunder and storms are the busyness of our lives. Slowing down helps us hear the whisper.*
Often, I pray for “eyes to see” what’s really there, but that kind of seeing takes intention. It takes slowing down. It takes a shift in perspective.
Three years ago, I wrote a blog post about this very thing: about how I was trying to move away from just pushing through the hard moments in my day. Because I really don’t believe that’s what God wants for us. Every moment is a gift, and I don’t want to squander them by merely surviving.
With the help of my spiritual director, I came up with a breath prayer for those moments:
Inhale: Lord, lift up my head
Exhale: To see your beauty
This, my friends, is an act of surrender. It’s saying: “I have nothing, but you give me everything. Help me see it.” And in that surrender, I have been surprised by the freedom I’ve found. I've begun to see more of the beauty around me, more of the abundant life He promises.
Taking that breath often requires a literal shift in posture: I have to lift up my head. But it’s also a metaphorical shift. I am choosing to change how I approach the moment. I am asking for eyes to see, even in the middle of the mess.
That’s what I’m inviting you into. Doing things that feel purposeless (making “ugly” art, noticing silly things) isn’t wasted time. It’s sacred time. It’s a way of slowing down, of receiving.
And somehow, taking time when it feels like there isn’t any actually multiplies time. This is God’s economy at work. This is abundance.
*And this is what spiritual direction is for! If this practice feels hard or foreign to you, I encourage you to give spiritual direction a try.
How the Incarnation and Sabbath Root Us in God’s Joy
A few days ago, I shared why I care so deeply about noticing, rest, creative play, and even coloring pages that help you slow down. We live in a world that is heavy with grief, stress, and noise. When Jesus says He came to give us life, and life abundantly(John 10:10), I believe that rest and play, especially contemplative, gentle play, are ways we begin to live that kind of life, even now.
When we make space, practice presence, play with reflection, and create with joy, we grow in intimacy with God. These small practices are not about escaping life, but becoming more fully alive to it with Him!
But I want to take this one step further, because there are two deep theological truths that make all of this not just comforting but profoundly Christian: the Incarnation and Sabbath.
The Incarnation, the mystery of God becoming human in Jesus, is the foundation of why noticing and play matter. In Jesus, God took on a body, lived in time and space, experienced touch, sound, story, community, and even delight.
“The Word became flesh and dwelt among us.” (John 1:14)
This means that God doesn’t ask us to meet Him only in serious thoughts, but He also meets us in the stuff of everyday life. He affirms that physical things can carry grace. When we slow down and pay attention to the ordinary, we’re not being “less spiritual.” We’re stepping into the heart of the Gospel: that God is with us, not just above us. That God loves us in our ordinary and small humanity, not despite it.
If the Incarnation shows us that God enters our ordinary world, Sabbath teaches us how to live in that world with joy, trust, and peace. Sabbath isn’t just a day off or a break from work, but a way of remembering who we are and who God is. It’s a practice of ceasing, resting, delighting, and trusting.
“On the seventh day God rested from all His work.” (Genesis 2:2)
“The Sabbath was made for man, not man for the Sabbath.” (Mark 2:27)
When we play, rest, notice beauty, or create something just for the joy of it, we’re participating in that same rhythm, a holy resistance to the lie that our worth comes from productivity. But we are not machines. We are beloved children of God.
And Sabbath is how we remember that.
To notice, to rest, to play with gentle presence… these are not soft distractions from “real faith.” They are expressions of real faith. Because the Incarnation tells us that God meets us in the ordinary and Sabbath teaches us to live in joyful, trusting rhythm with Him.
So if you find yourself weary, or wondering if these small practices matter, remember:
They are sacred.
They are grounded in the life of Jesus.
And they lead us into the abundance He promised.
Art as Prayer, Presence, and Play
Making art, even "ugly" art, for its own sake can be a profound act of intimacy with God. It invites us into the posture of being rather than doing, receiving rather than producing. In a world that prizes usefulness and polish, creating freely without concern for outcome mirrors the childlike trust that Jesus praises, the kind of trust that simply delights in the presence of the Father.
Not because the art is impressive or useful, but because the act of creating draws us into presence. It slows us down and invites us to notice what we feel, what stirs inside us, and what we otherwise might be tempted to rush past. In the quiet of making, we make space. And that is the space we can find God already waiting.
Creative prompts, like the ones I love to share, aren't about performance. They're a way of practicing presence. A way of saying, “Here I am, Lord, in all my imperfections.”
When we make art without judgment, we say: “I am allowed to take up space. I am allowed to play. I am allowed to express what’s inside, messy or not.” That kind of honest expression is a type of prayer, not a polished liturgy or even an extemporaneous prayer full of big words, but a groan, a laugh, a whisper. And that prayer invites God in to the very real life we are already living.
In Scripture, we see God as Creator, not just of majestic mountains and galaxies, but also of dust and mud. And God has invited us into that work and when we do so without self-protection or pretense, we open ourselves to encounter with Him. The art may be “ugly,” but the moment is beautiful.
And maybe, when we let go of trying to make something “good,” we become free enough to simply be with God, like a child bringing a crayon drawing to a parent, not for approval, but for connection.
This is what contemplative play is all about. Noticing. Being present. Making space. Trusting that God meets us in the making.
Noticing, Contemplative Play, and the Abundant Life
If you’ve ever wondered why I keep talking about noticing, rest, creative play, or coloring pages that help you slow down… well, sometimes I wonder too. Life can feel so heavy, and these small practices can seem almost too gentle for the weight of it all. But it’s in those moments, when the grief, stress, and noise press in, that I realize how much I need them.
This world can be so sad, and we all carry burdens. So when Jesus says He came to give us life, and life abundantly (John 10:10), I find myself asking: How do we live that kind of life right here, right now, in the middle of all this?
I believe that rest and play are one of the ways we begin.
I talk a lot about making space, noticing, playing contemplatively (which really just means playing with some gentle noticing), and creating because they are tools that help us grow in intimacy and in love with God.
God invites us to join Him in rest, in play, and in creating, not because He needs anything from us, but because He loves us, and He knows we need those things.
Everything I’ve been sharing here (on Instagram, on my blog, in printables, and prompts) is meant to be a gentle help. A way to take one small step into a slower, more spacious life with God.
Noticing: Attention as a Form of Prayer
To notice is to pay attention with love. And that kind of loving attention is all over the Bible.
“Be still, and know that I am God.” — Psalm 46:10
When we slow down and notice, whether it’s the beauty of nature, the sound of a child’s laughter, or the ache in our own chest, we begin to recognize God’s presence with us. This kind of awareness is a form of prayer.
Like Mary at Jesus’ feet (Luke 10:39–42), we choose what is better by simply being present with Him.
“When I consider your heavens, the work of your fingers… what is man that you are mindful of him?” — Psalm 8:3–4
This kind of noticing connects with a sacramental view of life: where ordinary things become windows into the holy.
Contemplative Play: Joy as a Spiritual Practice
Contemplative play is not childish. It’s childlike. (Remember that contemplative play just playing with some gentle noticing.)
“Unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.” — Matthew 18:3
To play is to trust, to risk delight, to rest in the truth that we are beloved, even if we’re not producing anything. This is the opposite of what the world tells us, that we must be productive to be of value. But that is not the way of the Kingdom.
And just like Sabbath, play is not extra, it’s essential.
“You shall go out in joy and be led forth in peace; the mountains and the hills before you shall break forth into singing.” — Isaiah 55:12
The Abundant Life: Receiving, Not Striving
Jesus says:
“I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly.” (John 10:10)
But abundance in God’s kingdom isn’t about more stuff, more hustle, or even more productivity. It’s about more presence. It’s about living from a deep well of love and trust and grace.
In noticing, we become aware of God’s nearness.
In play, we live into our identity as God’s beloved children.
In creating, we join Him in His holy work.
“In Him we live and move and have our being.” — Acts 17:28
A Final Invitation
If you’re feeling tired, rushed, or heavy-hearted, consider this your invitation to step into a more spacious way of being.
You don’t have to fix your whole life. You don’t need to have a perfect quiet time. Try just taking one small step: notice something beautiful, play a little with gentle curiosity, or create something just for the joy of it.
These are sacred things and God will meet you there. This is part of how we begin to live a life of abundance.
Make Space: Practicing the Art of Noticing
Every month, we begin by making space. This month, we’ll do that by slowing down enough to truly notice—to pay attention, with gentleness and curiosity, to the world around us and the life within us.
Looking back, I think my journey into mindfulness and practicing the presence of God began even before I started my spiritual direction training with Selah. One of the unexpected turning points for me was reading Rob Walker’s book The Art of Noticing. (I loved it so much I wrote about it in three different blog posts!) Something about it cracked open a new way of seeing.
Walker’s central message is simple but transformative: Attention is not just a resource. It’s the gateway to creativity, connection, joy, even worship. So many of the stories he shares are about people who chose to notice something and then began collecting or curating it in fun, creative, even reverent ways. What a delight that is! To turn your gaze toward something ordinary and find it shimmering with meaning.
As he puts it:
“Every day is filled with opportunities to be amazed, surprised, enthralled—to experience the enchanting everyday. To stay eager. To be, in a word, alive.”
“What we do with our attention, in short, is at the heart of what makes us human.”
Yes. Yes. Yes.
So, this month, as we begin by making space, I invite you to take time to notice just a little more than usual. Notice with your body, your senses, your spirit. Below is a gentle list of noticing prompts to get you started. You don’t need to do them all. You don’t need to do anything, really. Just let one or two invite you back to presence.
Noticing Prompts
What do you hear right now, if you listen very closely?
What color is the light where you are?
Can you feel the air on your skin? Is it warm, cool, still, or moving?
What’s the tiniest thing you can see from where you’re sitting?
Notice one thing that feels soft near you. What makes it soft?
What shapes do you see in the shadows?
Can you find something that’s moving very slowly?
What do your feet feel like right now?
What’s a smell in the air you hadn’t noticed until now?
Look around—what’s something nearby that makes you feel calm?
Can you hear your own breath? What does it sound like?
Notice something you’ve seen a hundred times... as if it’s brand new.
What color is the quiet today?
What’s something outside that’s holding still? What’s moving?
If you tried one of these, how did it feel?
Did time seem to move differently?
Did you?
As always, there’s no pressure, just an invitation to make a little space for wonder. Let noticing be its own kind of prayer.
Kid-Friendly Idea: Make a Noticing Adventure!
If you have kids in your life, this can be a beautiful practice to do together. Turn it into a “Noticing Walk” around the block or a “Five Senses Treasure Hunt” in your own living room. You might ask:
What’s the silliest sound you can hear right now?
Can you spot a shape that looks like a letter or animal?
What’s something you’ve never noticed on your way to the car?
Can you find one thing to sniff, one thing to touch, and one thing that moves?
Let them collect “noticings” like treasures, draw them, or make up stories about them. There’s no wrong way to pay attention—and often, kids are the best teachers of this kind of wonder.
An Examen for Kids: Talking to God about Your Day
This is a quiet time to talk with God about your day. You can close your eyes, or draw while you listen, or just be still. Let’s just notice what happened today together.
Who or what are you thankful for today?
Let’s thank God together!What brought you joy today?
Did you dance with a friend until you fell down laughing?
Did you sing a silly song about turtles wearing pants?
Did you laugh at a joke your friend told you at recess?
God is joyful with you.What made you sad today?
Did you stub your toe on an open door?
Did your friend say something that hurt your feelings?
Did you have to say a hard goodbye?
God is sad with you.What excited you today?
Did you learn something new about something you love?
Did your teacher tell you that you did a great job in school?
Did you get a new pair of sneakers?
God is excited with you.What scared you today?
Did you have a bad dream that made you scared?
Did you have to answer a hard question in front of the whole class?
Did a dog bark and scare you when you weren’t expecting it?
God is here to comfort you.What made you angry today?
Did you get in a fight with a friend?
Did you get an answer wrong that you thought was right?
Did someone take your favorite toy?
God is big enough to hold your anger for you.Where did you notice God today?
Did you see something beautiful in creation?
Did someone comfort you when you cried?
Did you share a snack with someone who didn’t have one?
God is with you every moment.What do you hope for tomorrow?
Let’s tell God your hopes together.
*My house has only preteen+ at this point, so we have shortened this to just “high/lows” (and sometimes we include “buffalos” - just something funny/random) at dinner time. It’s a way to be engaged in noticing with each other. We even have a special high/low dance, which we are assured is very “cringe”.
sacred story time (befriend a bear)
Last time, we began our journey with Pooh under a tree, listening and wondering. This week, we find him climbing that tree in search of honey, singing little songs, thinking funny thoughts, and eventually taking quite the tumble.
As we read this week’s passage, I hope you’ll let it stir both your gratitude and your grumbles, your imagination and your need for comfort. Come play, pray, and wonder with me.
Pooh climbed and he climbed and he climbed, and as he climbed he sang a little song to himself. It went like this:
Isn't it funny
How a bear likes honey?
Buzz! Buzz! Buzz!
I wonder why he does?
Then he climbed a little further ... and a little further ... and then just a little further. By that time he had thought of another song.
It's a very funny thought that, if Bears were Bees,
They'd build their nests at the bottom of trees.
And that being so (if the Bees were Bears),
We shouldn't have to climb up all these stairs.
He was getting rather tired by this time, so that is why he sang a Complaining Song. He was nearly there now, and if he just stood on that branch ...
Crack!
"Oh, help!" said Pooh, as he dropped ten feet on the branch below him.
"If only I hadn't——" he said, as he bounced twenty feet on to the next branch.
"You see, what I meant to do," he explained, as he turned head-over-heels, and crashed on to another branch thirty feet below, "what I meant to do——"
"Of course, it was rather——" he admitted, as he slithered very quickly through the next six branches.
"It all comes, I suppose," he decided, as he said good-bye to the last branch, spun round three times, and flew gracefully into a gorse-bush, "it all comes of liking honey so much. Oh, help!"
He crawled out of the gorse-bush, brushed the prickles from his nose, and began to think again. And the first person he thought of was Christopher Robin.
Noticing prompt
Who is the first person you think of when you are in trouble? What is it about that person that brings them to mind? Are they helpful? Kind? Comforting? Are you the kind of person that people seek out for help?
Play prompt
Try writing a gratefulness haiku and a complaining haiku (5-7-5 syllable structure). Notice the feelings that each provoke as you write. Here’s my example (I’m not sure if it’s complaining or gratitude! Maybe a little of both!):
Green leaves with bird poop
Out my window as I write.
That means birds were here.
Imagination prompt
What would it be like to be a bear in the town where you live? What would bring you joy? What would be frustrating? Imagine befriending a bear. Where would you go? What would you do together?
Prayer
Welcoming God, help me to take all my feelings to you, whether gratefulness or frustrations. Thank you for always inviting me, even in my unpleasant moments! Thank you for being someone I can go to for help with anything.
Download a PDF of this content for a Winnie-the-Pooh coloring page!
The Voice That Offers Freedom
I chose this image because when I look at those stingrays, I think they look so free and happy.
In spiritual direction, I’ve learned to listen closely for one particular sign of the Holy Spirit: anything that offers more freedom.
Not just a fleeting sense of relief, but like a deep breath after holding it too long. Like shoulders dropping as the weight you’ve been carrying finally slips off. Like space in your chest where anxiety used to live. Like permission to be fully yourself without apology.
It feels like stepping out into a spacious field, with room to run and realizing this is where you were meant to be all along.
Freedom doesn’t always come with fireworks or fanfare. Sometimes it’s as quiet as peace, as simple as clarity, and as holy as rest. It often shows up when you choose love over fear, when you stop trying to earn your worth, when you say no to something that once had power over you.
When the Spirit is present, freedom often follows. Not necessarily ease, but lightness.
"Where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom." —2 Corinthians 3:17
Freedom is one of the primary marks of the Spirit’s presence. When God is near, there’s less fear, less shame, less pressure to perform and more room to live fully and truthfully.
Isn’t it amazing that this is one way we can know the voice of Jesus? He is always offering more freedom, more grace, more rest for the weary soul. He said, “If the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed” (John 8:36). Jesus doesn’t coerce, He calls us out of our stuck places and invites us into healing, trust, and lightness of heart.
And yet, if we’re honest, we often sit comfortably in our own enslavement. Just like the Israelites who longed for Egypt when the wilderness felt too uncertain, we cling to what’s familiar, even if it binds us. We resist change. We fear the wide-open spaces of real freedom.
But Jesus keeps calling. He keeps speaking and tugging at our hearts. He keeps inviting us into the kind of life where we are no longer driven by fear, but led by love.
So the next time you’re discerning, ask yourself: Does this bring more freedom?
If the answer is yes, you just might be hearing the voice of God.
All the ways you can bloom
I continue to think about blooming, which shouldn’t be surprising given the current stage our beautiful wildflower garden (see photo). In my last post, I talked about how you can bloom through rest and play, which I think is my preferred method of blooming. And of course, when we think of blooming, we usually imagine sunlight and stillness, soft petals and spring. And yes, some blooming does happen that way: in moments of rest, joy, or playful creativity, when our hearts feel light and our calendars finally give us room to breathe.
But it occurred to me that we can also bloom through other things as well, including expressed sorrow (grief/lament) because it keeps our hearts soft (we may not usually think of this as blooming!). Because blooming may not always be the beautiful spring flowers kind of blooming. It’s not always pretty. It’s not always peaceful. And it’s never one-size-fits-all.
To bloom is to unfold more fully into who you already are. It’s the process of becoming and that journey can begin in all kinds of soil.
So here are just a few of the ways its possible to bloom, if we allow blooming to happen:
When you stop hustling for your worth. When you let go of productivity as identity. When your soul finally exhales and finds enoughness in simply being.
When you step into delight. When you create without a goal. When wonder is welcome and joy isn’t postponed.
When loss breaks you open. When you feel the ache and still choose to stay soft. When tears water something deep underground.
When you learn resilience by living it. When hard seasons refine you rather than define you. When growth feels more like grit than grace.
When you’re seen and held without needing to perform. When love lets you lower your guard and come home to yourself.
When something beautiful flows through you. When you co-create with God. When you feel most alive in the work your soul was made to do.
When pouring yourself out connects you to something bigger. When giving isn’t draining, but deeply aligning.
When shame starts to loosen its grip. When old wounds begin to close. When you reclaim parts of yourself that were buried or silenced.
No matter the path, one thing is always true: Blooming happens when it’s safe to unfold.
And that’s exactly what spiritual direction offers.
It’s not about giving you answers or fixing you. It’s about creating sacred space to notice what’s already stirring. A place to pause and listen. To name your truth and be met with compassion. To explore joy, pain, doubt, and wonder without judgment.
In spiritual direction, there’s no pressure to be in a certain season. You can be in full bloom or lying fallow. Grieving or creating. Wrestling or resting.
Your whole self is welcome.
The director doesn’t point to a path and say, “Go bloom.” We walk beside you, gently noticing where the light is already reaching in. We remind you that blooming doesn’t mean forcing. It means becoming. And that becoming takes many beautiful forms.
You can bloom through rest.
You can bloom through struggle.
You can even bloom in the dark.
And wherever you are in that process, there’s space for you here.
What does it mean to bloom?
My post on Instagram a few days ago got me thinking more deeply about what it really means to bloom. I love using that word with pictures of flowers, but I didn’t want it to be some trite caption, like, flowers bloom and you can too! I wanted it to really mean something.
I keep coming back to the idea of blooming as gentle growth toward our true selves. Or as I wrote in that post: to unfold into the fullness of who you are with freedom, abundance, and joy. Just like a flower doesn’t force itself open, blooming is a process of allowing, not striving. It happens when the conditions are right: sunlight, water, space.
For people, those conditions often include rest, play, and safety.
One of the places where those conditions are intentionally nurtured is in spiritual direction. Spiritual direction helps create space where blooming becomes not only possible, but often, inevitable. It doesn’t “make” you bloom the way sunlight makes a flower open. But it turns toward the light with you. It makes space for it. It witnesses the slow, often hidden, unfolding of who you are becoming in God.
Here’s how spiritual direction supports blooming:
It offers safety and stillness.
In a noisy, fast-paced world, spiritual direction gives you permission to pause, listen, and be listened to without agenda. That kind of presence is deeply nourishing. It creates the right internal conditions for blooming.
It helps you notice where life is already stirring.
Spiritual directors are trained to listen for grace, for freedom, for the gentle movement of the Spirit. They help you see where growth is happening—even if it's underground.
It honors all seasons.
Spiritual direction doesn’t rush your blooming. It holds space for winter, for pruning, for lying fallow. It trusts that dormancy isn’t deadness—it’s preparation.
It returns you to the true self.
Blooming isn’t about becoming something new and shiny. It’s about unfolding into who God created you to be all along. Direction gently peels away what’s false or forced and helps you reconnect to your God-given core.
And it often invites contemplative play, not always with crayons or crafts (though those are welcome!), but through wonder, metaphor, silence, curiosity, and imagination. The kinds of play that open the soul instead of performing for others.
In short: Spiritual direction is like a quiet garden where your soul gets room to breathe, grow, and rest in the presence of the Divine Gardener. Blooming tends to follow, not because you're trying harder, but because you're finally safe enough to unfold.
So when I say “bloom,” I mean that.
Not pressure. Not productivity.
Just a holy, spacious becoming.
For parents who want to help their children to bloom: it’s not about pushing or shaping them into something. It’s about creating the kind of safe, spacious environment where they feel deeply seen, loved, and free to unfold in their own time. That might look like making time for unstructured play, honoring their natural rhythms, inviting their questions without rushing to answer, or simply delighting in who they already are (“I’m so glad you’re you.”). Like a steady gardener, you don’t bloom them, but you can protect the soil, offer warmth, and trust the holy process already at work in them.
Make Space: begin with just one pause
This week, try beginning with just one small pause, a moment to clear a little room in your heart, your schedule, or even your table.
Light a candle before breakfast.
Set aside one thing that’s crowding your space or your mind.
Open a blank page and take a breath before you write or draw.
Lately, I’ve noticed how often I reach for my phone
when instead, I could simply pause. Breathe. Be present in the moment. It feels like such a cliché! I wish I could say I was past it. But the pull is real, and I’m learning to notice that moment before the reach to choose stillness instead.
This week I’ve been carrying some heavier things, so I’ve been extra gentle with myself and intentionally made more space for quiet art time and reflection. It’s helped more than I expected.
One thing I love about spiritual direction is how much it honors this kind of space-making. When you schedule time with a spiritual director, you’re making an appointment with someone else to help you make space for God.
And honestly? That’s often the only way it happens. It’s hard to do on your own, especially for a full hour.
But you don’t need an hour. Or a perfect setup. Sometimes, making space is just:
turning down the noise
setting down the phone
asking God, “What do You want to grow here?”
Even a few quiet moments can change the shape of your day.
For Life with Little Ones (or Big Distractions):
Making space might look like:
a few deep breaths while your child plays
turning off music for one quiet car ride
a short breath prayer as you fold the laundry
I remember a breath prayer I used a lot, especially when my kids were little: (inhale) Lord, lift up my head. (exhale) I can’t do this without you.
Even this can be enough.
Monthly Examen: A Prayerful Pause
Each month, I am going to invite a time to pause, reflect, and pay attention to the presence of God in our lives, to our emotions, and to the movement of grace in ordinary moments. The five steps of St. Ignatius’s Examen offer a gentle framework for this kind of reflection:
Become aware of God’s presence.
Review the day with gratitude.
Pay attention to your emotions.
Choose one feature of the day and pray from it.
Look toward tomorrow.
Let’s take a few quiet minutes together and look back over the past month.
When did you feel closest to God?
Was it in the middle of joy or celebration? Or perhaps in a moment of grief or struggle? Maybe it came through Scripture, through creativity, through time in nature, or in the quiet of an ordinary afternoon. There’s no wrong answer. Simply pause and notice.
When did you feel most like your true self?
Was there a moment when something deep inside whispered, This is what I was made for? Try to remember that feeling: what you were doing, who you were with, how it felt in your body.
Were there moments when God felt distant?
When you longed for Him but couldn’t sense His nearness? Hold those moments gently. Bring them to God now. Ask Him what He wants you to know about His presence, even when it feels hidden.
What are you grateful for from this past month?
Is there a particular day, moment, or even a small detail that fills you with warmth or thankfulness? Offer that gratitude back to God.
Where do you need help right now?
Is there an ongoing struggle or quiet ache you’re carrying? Invite God into that place of need. You don’t have to have the right words, just be honest.
What are your hopes for the month ahead?
Tell God what you’re longing for, dreaming of, or simply what you need. Even though He already knows, there is something powerful about naming those hopes in prayer.
sacred story time (climb a tree)
This week, I’m beginning a new series that uses classic children’s stories—beginning with Winnie-the-Pooh—to spark contemplative play. These prompts are meant to help you slow down, notice the world around you, and engage your spirit through simple acts of creativity, curiosity, and prayer.
In this first story, Pooh hears a buzzing in a tree and, being the thoughtful bear that he is, sits down to think about it. That small act—sitting, listening, wondering—feels like just the right place to begin.
I encourage you to enter like a child, while we read, wonder, and imagine together.
Once upon a time, a very long time ago now, about last Friday, Winnie-the-Pooh lived in a forest all by himself under the name of Sanders.
One day when he was out walking, he came to an open place in the middle of the forest, and in the middle of this place was a large oak-tree, and, from the top of the tree, there came a loud buzzing-noise.
Winnie-the-Pooh sat down at the foot of the tree, put his head between his paws and began to think.
First of all he said to himself: "That buzzing-noise means something. You don't get a buzzing-noise like that, just buzzing and buzzing, without its meaning something. If there's a buzzing-noise, somebody's making a buzzing-noise, and the only reason for making a buzzing-noise that I know of is because you're a bee."
Then he thought another long time, and said: "And the only reason for being a bee that I know of is making honey."
And then he got up, and said: "And the only reason for making honey is so as I can eat it." So he began to climb the tree.
Noticing Prompt
Find a tree to sit under or climb. What do you notice? Is the bark rough or smooth? What color are the leaves? How does the air feel—warm or cool? Do you hear any sounds? See any animals or insects? Take a moment to simply be, and notice how you feel as you sit with nature.
Play Prompt
Read or listen to a children’s book outside—under a tree if you can. Read slowly, like a child hearing it for the first time. What parts bring you joy or make you smile?
Imagination Prompt
If you were a tree, what kind would you be? What would your bark feel like? What color would your leaves be? Why? Try drawing or coloring yourself as a tree.
Prayer
Lord, help me see your world with wonder. Teach me to slow down and notice even thesmallest things—like the bark of a tree. Help me come to you like a child: curious, open, and full of need.
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Jesus and the Sacred Gift of Play
When we think of spiritual practices, we often think of prayer, silence, scripture, or stillness. But I want to offer a gentle reminder: Play can be sacred, too.
Not play for productivity. Not play as a break from "real" spiritual life. But play as a gentle, open-ended way of engaging the world—one that brings us into presence, wonder, and connection with the sacred.
I call this contemplative play.
As strange as it may sound, I believe contemplative play is a deeply spiritual practice. And I believe Jesus would agree.
Jesus said, “Become like little children.”
In the Gospels, Jesus doesn’t just tolerate children, He welcomes them and lifts them up as models of faith.
“Unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven,” He says (Matthew 18:3).
Children are open, curious, and creative. They’re fully present. They laugh easily. They don’t worry about performing or earning love. They simply are.
When we play, without agenda or pressure, we begin to return to that childlike posture. We remember that we are loved, not because of what we produce, but because we belong.
Jesus taught through story, gesture, and imagination.
He didn’t hand out theological treatises. He told stories. He drew in the dirt. He used mustard seeds, lilies, coins, and sheep to help people encounter deeper truth. His way of teaching invited the imagination, the senses, and the body, not just the intellect. It welcomed play. Not to escape reality, but to encounter God more deeply within it.
Play reminds us not to take ourselves too seriously.
Jesus didn’t avoid joy. He celebrated. He turned water into wine. He welcomed children into the middle of serious conversations.
Contemplative play helps us soften. It reminds us not to take ourselves too seriously and to take God’s love more seriously than we ever imagined. It makes room for delight.
And isn’t that what Jesus came to bring? “I have told you this so that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be complete” (John 15:11).
In a world that often equates faith with striving and seriousness, play is a form of holy resistance.
It says: I don’t have to earn love. I can laugh, rest, create, and explore. I am God’s beloved child.
Play helps us follow the movement of the Spirit.
Jesus often moved in surprising, Spirit-led ways. He turned aside to touch the untouchable. He paused in the middle of crowds to ask questions. He noticed the overlooked.
The Spirit still moves like that: in whispers, in nudges, in unexpected joy.
Contemplative play helps us practice noticing. It trains us to be receptive and open. It slows us down enough to see where God might be showing up in ordinary, even playful, ways.
Jesus invites us to come as children.
Not childish, but childlike: open, trusting, curious, and ready to play.
Because sometimes the most sacred thing we can do is allow ourselves to be delighted.
Want to try contemplative play for yourself?
Each month, I’ll share creative and noticing prompts, coloring pages, and picture book reviews to help you explore this practice at your own pace.
But here’s another beautiful way to experience it firsthand:
Sign up to serve in children’s ministry at your local church.
Seriously. It’s one of the best places to learn how to come to Jesus like a child. You’ll be surrounded by wonder, curiosity, creativity, and holy interruptions. Children will show you how to laugh, question, trust, and play.
You’ll be reminded, again and again, that faith isn’t about striving. It’s about being present.
That’s what I do, and it’s one of the richest parts of my spiritual life.
So try contemplative play at home, and consider joining the playful, sacred work happening with children in your church community.
Let them lead you into the kingdom.